“Anything worth doing is probably not easy, but the rewards are worth it.“
I know it’s been a LONG while since I have last updated my blog. I have been very busy with work, kids and my Love. I am so happy to share that we have been approved for Private Family Visits (PFV). We just had our first weekend together last weekend during the Easter Holidays. It was soooo AMAZING to just be with him for an entire weekend.
Trust me it was a long and stressful process for us to get approved. At first we were denied but we kept fighting and fighting for it and finally after a few months we were approved. His release date is still unknown at this time, too much bullshit but on the brighter side we have our PFV now so it helps make time go faster.
When I first heard the news that we were approved for a PFV and found out the date, the first thing I did was go shopping for some hot outfits that I would never be allowed to wear during visits! I hit up La Senza and Victoria Secret and got some HOT outfits for my man.
I seriously was soooo excited the week before we had our PFV. We both had butterflies in our tummies. We were just both so happy to know that we will get to spend some quality alone time together and just do the things we take for granted like cook together, watch a movie and just cuddling.
I packed my bag a few days before I had to go up. I had to look for shampoo, conditioner, body wash and lotion in CLEAR bottles. If I wanted to bring something that I couldn’t buy in a clear bottle, I just bought a bunch of clear travel containers and transferred all the contents in there. Thank goodness for Dollarama, I found so many travel containers there for cheap. I wasn’t allowed to bring a blow dryer, curling iron or flat iron. Ughh… trust me I was really upset about that.
I put all my lingerie, bras and underware in big ziplock bags so it will be easier for them to search me and not really mess up my bag. I only brought 4 outfits with me, a robe, towel, slippers and an extra pair of shoes. I basically put all my clothes in one bag and put all my hygiene stuff in another bag.
On Friday morning I woke up at 5am got myself ready and left my place by 6am. I was kinda speeding on the way up there… I just wanted to be with my man. I ended up getting to Millhaven in about 2 hours. That’s pretty good timing, I checked in around 8:30 am but I had to wait till after 9am before they came to search my stuff. The lady came and she gave me another bag to transfer my stuff into. I had no issues with any of my stuff, and then I had to get my stuff searched by the dog. I had my allergy medicine with me and that had to be locked away in V&C and if I needed it, I would have to call them.
After I was searched we walked over to the trailers. They are just small cottage type houses. I was given the big tour, the CO showed me where everything was. She told me that they will call us when it’s time for count and if we needed anything we can just pick up the phone and it will call them directly. There was a big red panic button on the wall. She warned me that this is for emergency use only. If we happen to hit the button just be aware there will be over 30 CO’s running over here. Just like a huge SWAT team. Yeah I don’t want to see that.
She told me it would be about 30 mins before my man would get there, and that she will be back with him to count all the knives and stuff in the kitchen. Just so nothing goes back to the prison range. When she left I went straight to the cleaning supplies. I started wiping stuff down and I vacuumed the furniture because I have allergies. I threw a all the linens in the washer.
When my man finally came I gave him the biggest hug and kiss! The CO went over the stuff with him and told us that the food we ordered will be there around 1pm. When they finally left we were all over each other. It felt like freedom for a weekend.
I just felt like I was in a ghetto motel, but I was happy to be with my man. We honestly had such an amazing time together. He cooked for me and treated me like his princess. We got to watch movies together, cuddle and fall asleep together. I won’t get into all the details but I’m sure you all know what we did most of the time.
The weather was pretty nice so we did spend some time outside in our barbwire fenced backyard. It had a picnic table and BBQ out there which was really nice. We played some scrabble and fed the little birds some bread. It was nice since we never got to spend any time outside during regular visits. I don’t plan on going to regular visits again. I’ll wait the 8 weeks and see him for a PFV instead. That’s what he wants me to do as well.
I enjoyed every moment we had together, I love him so much and I really want him to come home soon. The night before I had to leave, we got all our stuff packed up just so we didn’t have to rush in the morning and he set the alarm for 5am just so we can spend some time together in the morning. My man was feeling a bit sad knowing I had to leave and that he had to go back to the range again. He says he actually felt like he was FREE for a weekend.
Around 9 am in the middle of us making love….. there was a loud knock on the door. Seriously, you guys couldn’t call first. My man answered the door and said we needed a few mins to get our stuff together. We basically got dressed and put all the stuff away, they gave us a good 15 mins and then they called and asked if we were ready. (haha we got caught) I gave my man a big hug and kiss and I was escorted out. He had to wait in the trailer to get searched before he went back up to the range.
That was such a wonderful weekend and we are counting the days till our next PFV. I love my man with all my heart and I seriously can’t wait until we get married and spend our life together.
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